What Do Lasagna and Estate Planning Have in Common?

This Halloween, skip the scary surprises.

Forget haunted houses. The real horror story? A missing estate plan.

Families fighting over Grandma’s ring. Inheritances frozen in court. Surprises from long-lost relatives suddenly entitled to a share. It sounds like a movie, but these legal nightmares play out every day.

Most people think having a will or trust is enough to avoid this mess. But here’s the truth: estate planning isn’t about having a few documents. It’s about having a plan.

And surprisingly, it’s a lot like making lasagna.

A Will or Trust Is Not the Lasagna

Think of your favorite lasagna. You’ve got layers: pasta, sauce, cheese, maybe a little spice. But none of those ingredients make a full meal on their own.

Estate planning works the same way.

Your will or trust is just one ingredient. On its own, it doesn’t protect your family from probate, delays, or disputes. Without the full recipe, your documents may not even work when your loved ones need them most.

A complete estate plan is like a recipe card that pulls everything together. It gives your family instructions they can actually follow - without confusion, conflict, or fear.

What Happens If You Don’t Write Your Own Recipe

Here’s the twist: if you don’t make a plan, your state has one for you. But that version might be a real fright.

Imagine your state’s lasagna recipe calls for spicy sausage, and your family is vegetarian. Or it says you can’t start cooking for months. Or it invites people you’d never have at your table to pull up a chair anyway.

That’s what probate can look like.

Your state decides:

Who gets your assets
In what order
How long it takes
How much it costs
Who has to be notified (even people you haven’t talked to in years)

The process is public, expensive, and slow. Some assets can’t be touched until the case is resolved. And if there’s disagreement? Things can turn into a horror show fast.

You Get to Choose Your Own Recipe

The good news is, you don’t have to accept the state’s version. You can create your own plan, your own lasagna recipe.

You decide:

Who inherits and how
Whether your loved ones go through probate (hint: they don’t have to)
Whether to include charitable giving
When and how the plan takes effect

You can customize it just like your favorite dish. No mushrooms if someone’s allergic. Spicy or mild, meat or veggie. Served right away or saved for later. You’re in control.

Why We’re Different

We’ve seen too many families struggle because a loved one had documents but no actual plan. That’s why we take a different approach with Life & Legacy Planning®.

As a Personal Family Lawyer® Firm, we start by showing you exactly what your state’s plan looks like. Then we walk you through how to create your own—from legal choices to personal values—so your wishes are clear and your family is protected.

No confusion. No court drama. Just a plan that works when it’s needed most.